Mary Kay Ash’s mascot for her cosmetic company is a bumblebee. She said, “Because of its tiny wings and heavy body, aerodynamically the bumblebee shouldn’t be able to fly. But the bumblebee doesn’t know that, so it flies anyway.”
Further, Dr. Martin Seligman, director of the University of Pennsylvania‘s Positive Psychology Center states, “Bouncing back from bad times depends on the ‘stories’ you tell yourself.” This aligns with the message from the writer of Proverbs 23:7: “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.”
Here is my question: What are you consistently telling yourself about you? You are in control of your feelings and of your choices.
Life presents choices every day. You can be weak, or you can be strong. You can be sad, or you can be happy. You can be negative, or you can be positive. You can live in the past, or you can prepare for the future. You can remain in the consequences of life’s perplexities, or you can bounce back and fast forward like never before.
Torn and broken, Jasmine began her journey of bouncing-back and fast-forwarding her life, and she excelled beyond her wildest dreams. Earlier as a teen, she mirrored both her mom and older siblings by becoming a teenage mom and by later marrying into an abusive relationship. Even though she experienced some success, purchased a home, and drove a luxury car, as she tells her story, Jasmine lost everything. Her life looked hopeless.
What amazed me about Jasmine is she believed there was always something she could do to bounce back. She never gave up hope. She rejected hopelessness and stopped accepting false limitations.
So can you.
You know you want more from life. You know you want to design an exceptional life and soar like never before. This doesn’t mean you have to live under false pretenses. It does mean you have to embrace the power that God has already given you. It also means remembering that God enables you to exceed abundantly above all that you ask or think. He is able to do that according to the power that lies within you. (See Ephesians 3:20).
Believe in yourself even when others doubt. How, you many ask? Everything is possible to him who believes (Mark 9:23). One of the things I adore about Mary Kay Ash’s philosophy is that she coached her colleagues to gain self-esteem through believing in themselves. She knew a great secret – if people can see themselves as the person they hope to become and act “as if” they are that person, soon they will not be acting. They will actually become that person.
You can be held captive by relying on the wrong information. Act confidently and with conviction knowing there are some things you don’t need to know in order to grow. With giving up your learned helplessness, you can become strong enough not to allow people to take advantage and to keep from being hurt or maligned. It means you have to stop allowing the world to take over you.
360 Interior Assessment: Are you one of those people who feel stuck in life? Will you engage in activities that stimulate you and fill you with passion for living? When you tap into the life God designed for you, you wake up every day ready to fast-forward onto new realities because:
- You are better than that!
- You are valuable!
- You are powerful!
360 Interior in Action: Observe the world around you and be thankful for your life right now. Become the person who sees while looking, hears while listening and lives while living! Enjoy the majesty of these moments and the inspiration for your dreams as you open your heart to receive it.
- Tune into the Holy Spirit.
- Ignite your interests.
- Capture your insights, ideas and inspirations in a journal.
Don’t sit around and wait for something to happen. Make things happen. Adopt the attitude of the bumblebee and design an exceptional life bravely and confidently even against all odds. Better yet, do it because of the hardships and hurdles you may face.
You’re the creator of the rest of your life.
© 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. All rights reserved.